The term midlife is broad. Is it about age? Stage of life? Mindset?
Here in this blog, it is fairly general. One thing women who are moms have in common, midlife or not, is experiencing children growing up and the emotions that sometimes come with each step.
It's back to school time for those in the south. Those here in Canada don't return to school until September. For some moms, it means their youngest going off to kindergarten or all day grade one. For others, a child is entering high school. For another, it is a drop off at a college or university dorm.
If you are in one of these categories and feeling some intense emotions, let me assure you, you are not alone. The emotion may be fear, worry, loss, or something else. In most cases, a sense of grief is felt in that a mom feels her role changing. Her child is growing up.
It's okay and healthy to feel the pain of grief. Be cautious, though, of not getting stuck in it.
As far as fear and worry go, if you have a relationship with God, you have no need to worry. Worry will not help you. It will drain you.
God suggests you cast your cares on him. He is the only one that can be with your child 24/7.
Pray for your children, then let them go. Trust that God has a plan for them and will guide them.
I recall my second going off to school for the first time. I grieved. Our routine changed. He would no longer be playing in the nearby room while I did chores or read. But he would have new experiences at school. I'd tried to prepare him by putting him into preschool. He was shy from the get-go, so I had to trust God a lot to help him manage.
I decided it was time to sort through his closet to remove items he'd outgrown. That brought on more tears as I realized he would never wear those clothes again. They would no longer fit--it was part of ife.
I sobbed and felt the grief deep in my heart.
When my daughter was 10, we dropped her off at summer camp. I cried all the way home. I said to myself, if that was what the empty nest was going to feel like, I didn't want it.
Now I've been in and out of the empty nest a few times. I realize we adjust. As one counsellor put it to me--we also grow, mature, and change. We get tired of all the mom stuff and want our life back.
Whatever stage you're at, let me encourage you to simply walk through it. Feel the pain. Turn to God.
Don't get stuck in worry. Call on a counsellor or life coach if you feel the need for outside input. Talk to a friend. Trust God, and keep being the awesome woman he created you to be.