There are so many women in this midlife phase looking for answers about how to manage their lives.
There are many factors affecting a midlife woman's day-to-day life. There are spiritual, physical and circumstantial drivers to manage. Here are but a few simple things I've noticed and some tips to manage these challenges:
- A midlife woman may feel out of shape, stiff all over, depleted in energy, and so on (even women who regularly exercise).
Challenge: Manage your health with exercise, supplements, dietary changes, rest, and pacing your activities. You aren't in a 20-year old's body, but you can make the most of what you have. Take care of yourself by adjusting your routines to serve you better. Don't feel guilty about taking a day off to relax. Don't feel guilty about taking a nap.
- A woman facing unemployment may struggle with an identity crisis and lack of clear path when there is no daily work schedule.
Challenge: Do you need to work because you need the income? If so, visit an employment agency to help you find the right fit. If you merely want to work because you think it will make life more fulfilling, submit the idea to God. He may have unpaid or part-time work he wants you to do instead. Unless he calls you into paid work again, learn to accept where you are and enjoy your life! Don't keep fighting his plan for your life. Add routine into your day to make a schedule for yourself. Check things off your to-do list to feel fulfilled.
- A woman may struggle as her role as mother begins to change. The transition can be troubling because the role as she knew it was so long, enduring and meaningful.
Challenge: Be kind to yourself as your role changes. Read books on parenting if needed to understand the changes that are occurring with your children. See a counsellor if you need to figure out how to relate to your adult children. Enjoy the new freedom this phase offers. Look at this time as a precurser to the next phase of life where you will be able to live like you did before children arrived.
Most of all, get over the idea there is one perfect way to live life. Don't keep thinking the grass is greener somewhere else. The grass will be greener right where you are if you take care of it.