MIDLIFE WOMEN ARE SEARCHING FOR ANSWERS! Many midlife women feel lost and fearful when they sense a new stage unfolding. Some feel lonely. Others are caught in grief whether it be grieving the figure they once had, grieving over children moving out, or a loss of marital or job status.
For some midlife women, life may not be panning out as planned. Perhaps disenchantment or boredom has set in. There's an urgent search for change for many.
Some women look great on the surface, but beneath there is unrest. I recently heard an analogy comparing a person to a duck on the water--on the surface all looks peaceful, but below the water the feet are paddling swiftly.
Many women are like this duck. They are constantly paddling to stay afloat of all life's responsibilities. As keeper of the home they feel responsible to know how everything works, where everything is, and to know how to make everyone happy. They're paddling like mad to keep their marriage flourishing, ensuring their children have all they need, and exercising and dieting like made to get rid of mounting pounds.
The Christian woman knows what God offers, but her human side can easily get caught up in striving and trying to control her world. Surrender is a word she needs to study. She may feel she surrendered to God the day she chose to believe in him, but surrender is more than that. It involves a daily examination of a variety of life areas that are robbing her of God's peace. Here are a few traits an unsurrendered woman may demonstrate:
- Has lots of worry.
- Has a victim mentality, or the opposite--an entitled one.
- Is easily frustrated.
- Tries to control people and situations.
- Feels people and situations won't thrive without her input.
- Is argumentative.
- Creates images of self-importance to boost her self-esteem.
- Counts on accolades, position, or title for self importance.
As I said, these are but a few examples. The list can be very long.
Is there a solution? Yes. She can learn how to go about trusting God with her life and the life of her family. She can learn how to surrender. It can be an in depth and long-term process so I can't begin to explain it all here. This is more like throwing a crumb of bread to a paddling duck.
If this intrigues you, I challenge you to research this topic of surrender more.