I read the story of a popular Christian woman in the media who re-married recently. Her story and that of the man she re-married sounds inspirational.
But...on investigating their history, I learned both had divorced in the few years previous to their meeting. The woman admits she had a midlife-crisis and, combined with stress and feeling distant from her husband, decided to leave the marriage.
Of course, I don't know everything and it would be inappropriate for me to speak about that which I don't know the truth of.
I imagine, though, her new marriage is fun and novel and gives her a new focus now in midlife. Personally, though, I feel deep concern for the families they both left. I feel concern for the times that may arise when they both wish they were still with that person who knew them better than any other person on earth. The question is, did they improve their life or did they destroy something good?
The Midlife Crisis
The issue here is the feeling of being caught in a midlife crisis. It happens to most people at some time or another, it seems. Even Christians.
It's easy to look around for who or what to blame and easy to look over the fence or into the past to find a perceived greater sense of joy elsewhere.
The solution for solving a midlife crisis isn't easy. It seems in midlife, just when we feel we should have finally "arrived" and feel at peace and happy, life begins to look bleak instead.
WHY DO MIDLIFE CRISIS OCCUR?
No matter how Christian we are, we are human. It's easiest to show our real selves with the person we feel safest with. We let things slide, other things slip from our lips and we take God's goodness for granted. We become bored with life. We tire of the energy it takes to stay upbeat.
Added on come other midlife challenges common to most women. I discuss many possible reasons for a midlife crisis in midlife in my kindle book,