Midlife Crisis Preventative Tools for Christian Women



I read the story of a popular Christian woman in the media who re-married recently. Her story and that of the man she re-married sounds inspirational. 

But...on investigating their history, I learned both had divorced in the few years previous to their meeting. The woman admits she had a midlife-crisis and, combined with stress and feeling distant from her husband, decided to leave the marriage.  

Of course, I don't know everything and it would be inappropriate for me to speak about that which I don't know the truth of. 

I imagine, though, her new marriage is fun and novel and gives her a new focus now in midlife. Personally, though, I feel deep concern for the families they both left. I feel concern for the times that may arise when they both wish they were still with that person who knew them better than any other person on earth. The question is, did they improve their life or did they destroy something good?

The Midlife Crisis 

The issue here is the feeling of being caught in a midlife crisis. It happens to most people at some time or another, it seems. Even Christians.

It's easy to look around for who or what to blame and easy to look over the fence or into the past to find a perceived greater sense of joy elsewhere. 

The solution for solving a midlife crisis isn't easy. It seems in midlife, just when we feel we should have finally "arrived" and feel at peace and happy, life begins to look bleak instead. 

WHY DO MIDLIFE CRISIS OCCUR?

No matter how Christian we are, we are human. It's easiest to show our real selves with the person we feel safest with. We let things slide, other things slip from our lips and we take God's goodness for granted. We become bored with life. We tire of the energy it takes to stay upbeat. 

Added on come other midlife challenges common to most women. I discuss many possible reasons for a midlife crisis in midlife in my kindle book, 

16 Essential Steps to Help You Walk Through Your Midlife Crisis: A Self-Coaching Tool for Midlife Christian Women (Self-Coaching Tools for Midlife Christian Women) Kindle Edition by Rose Garde (Author)


Resist the Temptation 

The problem is, it's tempting to take drastic measures in an effort to find a simple solution. But God rarely prompts us to take drastic measures. Waiting on God is the right thing to do in crisis, even when you don't sense His presence. 

He allows us to meet a number of human challenges head on--from the effects of hormone changes, to dealing with children becoming adults, to the inability to find new work, to health crises. 

WHAT TO DO

I think God might welcome the idea of making a list of your challenges then asking him to reveal what steps you need to take to walk through them. Ask him to restore your motivation and energy.

Satan will come in to throw doubt and despair at you. You'll feel overwhelmed. You'll look at others and feel jealous. You'll worry about your future. It's important to learn the promises of God and to choose to believe in them. 

God says to lay your burdens at His feet. He says to resist becoming anxious. He says to resist the devil and he will flee. That means:

  • Removing yourself from the situations where you feel tempted. 
  • Stopping your mind from wandering into inappropriate "what ifs" or blaming others.

God says to wait on Him and to trust Him. He says He will renew your life. He is always at work, but His schedule is not your schedule.

The questions become:
  • Will you ask for God's help?
  • Will you read the promises and trust them?
  • Will you be willing to walk through your crisis one step at a time instead of taking drastic action?

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