Shedding a Little Light on Women and Moods
Several years ago, I conducted a research survey asking women in early midlife questions about their moods. I was certain I would find a commonality, but the results were varied.
Surprisingly, only three out of 15 women in the survey admitted to some depression type moods and didn't necessarily attribute them to midlife.
It lead me to conclude each woman's journey with moods is unique.
Here are some points I've discovered. I pray something here is a message to you from God, to help you navigate your own journey.
Failure to Accept Your Uniqueness Can Inhibit Positive LivingWhen a woman is a Christ follower, reads his word, prays, participates with other believers and still has trouble with her moods, some simple viewpoints might help her with a breakthrough:
a) If she recognizes God made her and is in control of her life, then it makes sense what she experiences is something he allows. Sometimes, it is so that she can use her real life experience to comfort others in the future.
2 Corinthians 1:3-7 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 5 For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ. 6 If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which produces in you patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer. 7 And our hope for you is firm, because we know that just as you share in our sufferings, so also you share in our comfort. (NIV)
b) The Apostle Paul urges us to accept trials and thorns in the flesh as part of life, to learn to live with joy and contentment in the midst of them.
Now, living in contentment doesn't mean labeling yourself as having a problem and revolving your whole life around it. I know firsthand that God can heal an issue at any time. Things could change for you at any time.
I like to think living in contentment means learning to co-exist with whatever you're facing, while making the most out of life, doing your best, being nice, serving God and others.
c) Sometimes a woman goes into counseling or life coaching because she thinks her experience is unique and A PROBLEM. Whether it be from her own judgment on the matter, urgings from things she's read, concepts taught by others (even well-meaning coaches, pastors, or friends), comparing her life, or listening to words from family members, she gets the idea that something's "not right" with her life and she needs to find SOLUTIONS.
Low moods aren't fun, but a woman can actually make them worse by labeling them as wrong. A lot of energy can be used up living in the vicious circle of self-analysis and solution seeking.
Again, if God made her the way she is and is there to help her, then is it really wrong? Maybe her wrong is actually her normal.
To keep saying, "take this away, Lord" may be the wrong approach. Perhaps the prayer should be, "Lord help me put these feelings on the right shelf. Take over their management, help me navigate them, and help me serve you and do wonderful things in spite of them."